How to buy your first sex toys | Exoticalife

If you’re looking for your first sex toy, scrolling through the hundreds available can be fairly intimidating. It can be hard to decide on what features will best suit you and your needs. The only way to fully find out what toy will be best is by trying some of the different ones available. People that regularly use sex toys own, on average, between three and twelve different types. Therefore, it’s highly logical that the first toy you buy will be the beginning of an exciting journey. Even if you don’t get the first purchase right, it will help you to figure out what you do and do not like in a sex toy.

There is an absolute treasure trove of vibrators, dongs, clit suckers, and G-spot stimulator toys available. Understanding what each of the toys does is key to finding the right one for you. Sex toys range from relatively inexpensive to higher-priced models that have many features included. If you are figuring out what you like, it could be best to go with a cheaper item. Although it may not last long, the reduced price means that you won’t be bothered if it doesn’t do anything for you. Sex toys can be an intensely personal thing, or if you have a good circle of friends and are open about sex, you can discuss what they like to use.

Have a look through everything available in a sex toy shop and see what grabs your attention. You can tag what you like by placing them in the shopping cart. After you have about ten or so selected, go into the cart narrow down your selection to your top three. Thankfully, online shopping is discrete, and you can take your time without any sales assistants keeping a close watch on you.

What you need to know about your first sex toy

If you’ve looked through everything and found something that appeals to you, then that’s great! After it arrives on your doorstep (conveniently in plain packaging), it can be hard to resist the temptation to open it up and dive right in. However, anytime you get a new toy to play with, you want it to be the best of experiences, especially if this is your first time using one. All sex toys will come with special care requirements, usually about cleaning, hygiene, and storage. Reading these instructions will mean that your toy lasts a reasonable amount of time, and you don’t hurt yourself using it.

After opening the package, read all the instructions (if it came with any), and insert some fresh batteries if it uses them. Please give it a test to ensure everything is working as it should; nothing is a mood killer like getting ready to go, and the thing doesn’t even get started. We’d never assume to tell you how to use your sex toy, especially as we’re all different in what we like. But here are a few tips and guides to make the most out of any session with a new sex toy.

Preparation is key to enjoyment!

All first times should be a good experience, and a sex toy is no exception. Make up your room into a place that you feel comfortable. Mood setting can include suitable lighting, candles are near perfect, but you can also drape thin fabric over a lamp for that perfect lighting. Lava lamps are also excellent mood-setting devices with their warm glow and sensual movements. Put on some music that can help you drift off into the nether realm. If you’ve got some sexy underwear, you can put that on to truly get yourself in the right headspace. To make sure you’re free from distractions, close your laptop and place your phone face down.

Start it up slowly

With vibrators, they often have several speeds, and diving right in on the highest setting may be too much for your first experience. Get things moving first, this could be with your hand or the sex toy turned off. If you have some lube, you can use some of that to get things moving a little quicker if you like. At times it may feel that you’re here to do a job; this is often because you’re trying to rush things along. Allow yourself the time to figure out what is working for you and what is not. Don’t overthink anything, and if you need some help with your imagination, there are plenty of helpful websites (and yes, we mean porn).

A common trait of new experiences is that it can take time before you perfect them. Don’t be too hard on yourself if things do not appear to be working in the manner you were expecting. If something isn’t feeling right, have a break and then try again in a few minutes.

Hold recommendations with a grain of salt

Just because something works wonders for a friend doesn’t mean it’ll give you that same amount of pleasure. We are all different, and what works for one person may not necessarily work for others. You may find that some sex toys work better in different positions than others. You could also have a preference for the type of materials used in the sex toy. A good guide is to get a few and work out which works best for your needs. If the toy doesn’t feel good after you’ve given it a few tries, perhaps it needs to be regulated to the bottom draw and open up a different one.

Keeping it clean

A good quality sex toy will include instructions for keeping it clean. It’s important to note that not all sex toys are the same, and materials will need to be cleaned appropriately. To avoid getting any bacterial infections washing all sex toys is an important part of the overall process. We know that talking about cleaning anything can be an absolute mood killer. Luckily most sex toys can be cleaned quite easily in the shower, with hot and soapy water. Make sure you dry it off completely and place it somewhere reasonably free from dust and other particles. Before using it the next time, you can give it a quick rinse under a tap and pat dry with a towel.

Sex toys are designed for fun, and once you get to know your first sex toy, you can always buy more. As you learn what makes your body sing, you’ll be able to easily find a sex toy that has features that are perfect for you!


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