Orgasms for women can be slightly more challenging than they are for men. It would be perfect if your body could react to the way you’re feeling, but unfortunately, many women are just not built that way, especially if you’re relying on penetrative sex only. However, if you’re looking for that elusive orgasm, you may find that using the combined powers of G-spot and clitoral stimulation can help!
When trying to achieve an orgasm, it’s important to note that while some of this advice may help, we are all different, and what works for some may not work for others. However, practice and figuring out what your body responds to is key to hitting an orgasm when you want. Working with your G-spot and clitoris together is often called a blended orgasm and can be more intense than any regular orgasms you’ve experienced in the past.
What is the Clitoris?
The clitoris is located under the clitoral hood, which is where the inner labia meet. It generally serves no purpose in the reproductive system other than to make you feel good! The part you can see and feel is often only a tiny part of the overall area. The clitoral area spreads out from this central location and splits into two legs or arms that will go into your body; this is known as the G-spot. Many women have reported experiencing the blended orgasm by touching these two areas simultaneously, which felt more intense than their regular orgasms.
What exactly is the G-spot?
The G-spot is a term used for a cluster of nerves that are inside the vagina. There was a time where people (men mostly) didn’t believe it existed. However, it has been proven (thanks to medicos!) that it does indeed exist. It turns out that the G-spot and the clitoris are interconnected, and they go to the pudendal nerve. The pudendal nerve is considered to be primarily responsible for feelings of pleasure during sex. In 2009 the clitoris was demonstrated, from a medical perspective, that the area is significantly larger than previously thought. The clitoris is similar in shape to a wishbone in that it has two ‘legs’ (known as the Crura) leading out from the main point (the part most of us are familiar with). So, you’re essentially stimulating a different part of the clitoris when you are massaging the G-spot.
How do I have an orgasm?
When it comes to orgasms, vaginas are not all the same. What may work for some women may not work for others. Taking advice from other women can make you feel like something is wrong if it doesn’t work for you. It’s best to take your time and explore everything down there. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself, as stress is a massive mood killer. Set your room up in a way that makes you feel comfortable; play some music, or put on a movie that you like, and just let your body guide itself to what feels good.
Once you uncover what works for you and your body, you can focus on those areas. Exploring your own body is one of the best ways to understand what makes you tick. Don’t be too hard on yourself if it doesn’t work out the first time, have a break and then try again in a few hours or a few days. Many women find that stimulating the clitoris is an excellent way to get things moving and put your body in the mood. Then you can build on those feelings and explore other areas of your body. If you prefer, you can use sex toys and your imagination to get things going further. After some time and practice, you should be able to achieve a regular orgasm.
If you’ve never experienced an orgasm before, it can be hard to know what the feelings might include. As your orgasms are building, it may feel that you’re about to pee, but this is because everything down there is often close together, so it can be hard to differentiate between them. However, it is reasonably unlikely that you’re going to pee during an orgasm (unless you want to). Essentially everything will keep building up to the point that you’ll naturally feel a release; it is possible for women the ejaculate during an orgasm.
Orgasms are different for everyone, but for most women, you may find that any of these can occur:
- Involuntary muscles spasms; particularly in your abdomen and feet
- Vagina and uterus contract rapidly
- An increasing heartrate
- Heavy breathing
- Blood pressure rises
If you notice any of these during masturbation or sex, then you’re probably experiencing an orgasm. The specific way that people react when having an orgasm is different, some people call out, and others go silent. But generally, you’ll feel a certain something wash over you while it is happening, and then intense release is it continues. A female orgasm is not that much different from a men’s orgasm, it may take a little more to get you there, but the result is often the same, although a women’s orgasm will last a little longer; so that’s a win!
How do I achieve a blended orgasm?
A blended orgasm is like a regular orgasm, but it is achieved by stimulating different areas of the clitoral region. To stimulate your G-spot, you can use your fingers or a G-spot vibrator. You can find the G-spot by inserting your finger and curling your fingers to a come hither motion. The G-spot area should feel different from the other skin surrounding it. The skin of the G-spot may feel slightly bumpy similar to the outside of a walnut. Once you find your G-spot, you can start to massage the area, and then at the same time, use your other hand to focus on your clitoris. Work both together until everything is working well and you feel the build-up of your orgasms approaching.
Working both your G-spot and clitoris together can take some time. But when it comes to sex, this is all a part of the fun. Many women find that having their partner perform oral sex while using a vibrator on their G-spot can help get it all working together for that perfect blended orgasm!